SPEAK UP: What is more important to you, affection or perfection?


Relationships can be tough. They have their ups and downs. It's really difficult to determine when it's finally time to let things go. I once read, "Never leave a great relationship for a few faults. Nobody is perfect. Nobody is always correct. In the end, affection is always better than perfection."
What do you think about this week’s quote? What is more important to you, affection or perfection? What do you look for in a mate?
This week’s quote can teach many couples something. The quote means that a couple shouldn’t break up or separate for little mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes; all that matters is the love and devotion the two share. Affection definitely means more than perfection. God didn’t make anyone perfect, and everyone has flaws. I would prefer to be loved for who I am. Love, Compassion, and Honesty is all I ask for in a mate. - Fantasia, 15 (Beauty Reporter)

In a mate, I look for someone who believes in God, is honest, driven, motivated, compassionate, trustworthy, loyal, respectful, funny, and someone who knows what they want out of life. Affection is always better than perfection because in the end, no person is perfect. If there was perfection, then no one would make mistakes. I would rather have someone that can open up, let their guard down when needed and express their feelings to me wholeheartedly. In any great relationship, there are going to be ups and downs, but it is the downs that really determine the relationship and ultimately make the relationship stronger. - Ajea, 19 (Fitness Reporter) 
Both. I honestly don't think I could choose, but if I have to, I'd choose “protection”. I think affection comes as a result of feeling comfortable and protected. As for a mate, I tend to be attracted to guys who are ambitious, focused, spiritually rooted, smart (book and street), and of course, a good personality is appreciated. - Christa 18, (Style Reporter)
Affection truly is more important than perfection. Only true emotions will sustain a relationship. No one is perfect and trying to be perfect will only end in disaster. I always look for a guy who is confident, funny, knows what he wants out of life, and is affectionate. - Olivia, 14 (Love/Relationships Reporter)
To me, affection is more important to me than perfection. I tend to look for people who are willing to be vulnerable and open their hearts to me just so that I know that they are trustworthy. A perfect balance of listening and talking is my ideal. - Veronica, 16 (Culture Reporter)
Nothing in life is perfect. For me, this quote defines that in a relationship we have to be willing to fix the problems we may encounter and to accept that it will never be perfect. For me, a guy needs to be down to earth and know how things really work in this world while still being able to be funny and shameless every now and then.-Hannah, 18 (International Music Reporter)
Perfection is a state of mind that at most times, is hard to achieve in any relationship with family, friends, or a significant other. We were created individually unique. In the end, that is worth so much more than perfection. A good foundation in a relationship should replicate this and honor affection as a whole. -Mecca, 17 (Cooking 101) 
I'll be the first to admit that I am far from perfect. To expect my significant other to be would be unfair. We all have our faults. I think that true affection is to accept each other’s faults and learn to love in spite of them (but don't be a fool). - Aja, 21 (Fitness Reporter)
When I make new friends, I always gravitate towards a person who emits a sort of mystery about them. I like people like this because they aren't trying too hard to be like everyone else. Everyone tries so hard to put all of themselves out for the world to respond to hoping to be accepted. I look for a person who may not be textbook definition perfect, but my definition is someone who can be affectionate, wise, and beneficial to my growth.  - Samantha, 16 (Style Reporter)
Perfection is impossible, but affection (even if it's just a little bit) goes a long way. I want to know my presence means something and that if I ever need a hug or a kiss on the forehead, my partner will be right there. As long as I have that, I can deal with imperfection. - Brianna, 20 (Lifestyle Reporter)

Nicole Johnson Roberson, LCSW is continuing her mission to provide ethical, creative, and clinically based therapeutic support to today’s youth. She delivers clinical direction through articles that address various mental health concerns and provides education and information about community resources. Nicole has also been involved with other aspects of TEEN DIARIES including the formation of Dear TD (formerly Dear Nicole) and Project Butterfly. Originally from the Washington D.C. metropolitan area, Nicole currently resides in Atlanta, GA and provides confidential, clinically sound and creative services to youth and adults alike by serving as the clinical director of a small medical solutions company and through her own private practice. The proud member of Alpha Kappa Alpha, Inc. Nicole is also a doctoral student at the Institute for Clinical Social Work in Chicago, Illinois.