SPEAK UP: In Love, Do You Accept The Good and Bad?


We have always admired the beauty and tenacity of Marilyn Monroe. One of our favorite quotes by Marilyn is: "I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best." We believe her statement rings with so much truth. We think real love is not only a two-way street, but it's also unconditional. So often we decide to love others - just as long as they fit into our expectations of what we believe ‘love’ to be. To us, that's not real love. True love involves acceptance and understanding... even when it’s hard. We believe love accepts a person, just as they are. What do you think?
How do you understand this week's quote? Do you believe that loving someone means accepting the good AND the bad? Do you have a personal story to share?

Loving someone, in my opinion, requires total commitment. A lot of things in life need work and that's how relationships are as well. The media often times depicts love as two people who can't be apart and have one major trial before they live happily ever after. That simply is not the case. The good and the bad is what makes Dan different from Stan and should be celebrated and accepted. Of all the relationships I have had, understanding that I'm not going to love everything the other person does really has helped prolong them. – Renée (Hair Reporter)
It certainly may not be easy, but I don't think you can actually love someone you if you can't accept them flaws and all. Love is the ultimate form of acceptance. – Christa (Style Reporter)
People often get too caught up in impressing others and being "perfect," which creates a "fake" personality. I believe that a healthy relationship always includes accepting each other’s flaws, and it almost always ends up benefiting both people! – Veronica (Culture Reporter)
Funny, I'm sitting with my Valentine reading this quote. We both agree that love is acceptance of both the good AND the bad. I think our society today is shaped on human-made romance and not real love. Romance is a fantasy that only exists in books and movies that tell people they aren't being loved right unless it's the way society has shown them. It may not be easy, but in the end, real genuine love will conquer all. Xoxo  - Aja (Fitness Reporter)
Real love is an honest, respectful, and loyal relationship of reciprocation between those involved. To fully love someone, you have to love yourself fully, which includes loving/embracing the good, bad, and ugly parts of who you are. Only then can you love someone else, because from loving yourself and accepting yourself for you, comes the ability to love someone else in the same manner.  – Jazmin (Music Reporter)
Unconditional love means loving through all circumstances especially when times are bad. Nobody is perfect and loving somebody means accepting that person flaws and all. I believe that everybody comes with a little baggage. It’s all about finding that person that loves you enough to help you unpack. – Antoinique (PR Intern)
Everyone has good and bad traits. It is important to understand this before entering a relationship. In a relationship, two people aren't going to agree all of the time, but you still have to love each other no matter what. A couple who truly loves each other should accept each other’s flaws. Another quote that I like in correlation to this is, "We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly." – Kendria (Intern)

Loving someone means loving them when they are at their lowest and being able to see the good in them. It shows loyalty, not just love. - Marianna (Sports Reporter)

Nicole Johnson Roberson, LCSW is continuing her mission to provide ethical, creative, and clinically based therapeutic support to today’s youth. She delivers clinical direction through articles that address various mental health concerns and provides education and information about community resources. Nicole has also been involved with other aspects of TEEN DIARIES including the formation of Dear TD (formerly Dear Nicole) and Project Butterfly. Originally from the Washington D.C. metropolitan area, Nicole currently resides in Atlanta, GA and provides confidential, clinically sound and creative services to youth and adults alike by serving as the clinical director of a small medical solutions company and through her own private practice. The proud member of Alpha Kappa Alpha, Inc. Nicole is also a doctoral student at the Institute for Clinical Social Work in Chicago, Illinois.