“Don’t dorm with your friends,” is what many people told me when I was starting the housing application process for college. They expressed to me that sharing a living space with your close friends often leads to constant arguments about housing arrangements and can even end the friendship altogether. The idea that living with your girlfriends can either make or break your relationship was made clear, but my best friend and I were determined to live together on campus during freshman year. We have been inseparable since 9th grade, so there was no one else I wanted to share my space with and make memories with during my first year of college than her.
After selecting each other as roommates in early May, she and I moved into our dorm room in mid-August. In the back of my mind, I have been consistently praying that our roommate experience doesn’t end up as horror story like so many other people. Since we started living together, I have noticed differences between us. She has to fall asleep with the TV on while I typically prefer quiet when I go to bed. I need time to be alone while she is always ready for the next social adventure. However, dorming has made me realize that having a roommate is about compromise and understanding each other’s quirks. The experience of us living together has been mainly positive thus far and has made our bond stronger than ever overall. I often feel like I’ve gotten to know her better in three weeks than I did over the past four years. Being in a small space has forced us to converse more often, which has led to us having many deep conversations about college, relationships, and life over the past few weeks. Living on our own has also helped us mature together. Without our parents, we’ve been relying on each other to help navigate everything from shopping for household essentials to dealing with real deal dilemmas like financial aid. Each experience since move-in day has helped us learn what it means to be an adult together.
The experience of living together is something we’ll carry with us for the rest of our lives. It has solidified the idea that my best friend is someone I plan to be close with for years to come. When we graduate from college and are no longer living together, I can see us talking on the phone all the time and getting together to create our own “Girl’s Trip” moments. Some friends aren’t made to live together, and that’s okay. I am thankful that my BFF and I have been able to maintain our relationship on campus as it has truly made adjusting to life as a young adult in college much easier.